Who knows what you are living with until it is too late. Like me it took me 44 yrs and almost 2 yrs of separation to find all the clues he left me and I put it all together. His cruelty calculating con game. Now he is playing the biggest con game of all now using paying off judges to do it. He took all of our money and left me broke part of his game plan to attack me and to humiliate me and make me live in poverty the rest of my life. But I may be down but not out. I will be back in the game again and soon. fyi.